The Great Unbalancing Machine: Navigating Yin and Yang in Modern Life

The Great Unbalancing Machine

Modern life is the ultimate machine for throwing oneself out of balance, and it seems to get worse with each passing year.

We stay up later. We work longer hours. We sleep less than ever before.

On top of that, we are forever stimulated by our devices, and we rarely give ourselves a chance to actually unplug.

It's enough to make you feel crazy. I know it has for me...

And that's why it's essential to get back to the fundamentals.

Taoism

The ancient Taoists studied and observed everything in nature to see how it behaved.

Their observations showed that our universe is a constant dance of different forces. These forces are constantly interacting and finding their way into a natural balance.

They concluded that when things were in harmony, they function correctly and flow more smoothly.

When things become unbalanced, there is disharmony and dysfunction.

Yin and Yang

The most simple form they used to describe things is in the duality of Yin and Yang.

Yin and Yang are opposing energies or qualities that are present within all things and between all things.

Yin represents things that are more slow, grounded, cool, stable, etc.

Yang represents things that are more dynamic, fluid, warm, changing, etc.

All things can be described as some relationship of Yin and Yang.

Our Yang-Excessive Lives

As we take this back to reflect on our modern lifestyles, it becomes clear that we live with a nearly constant excess of Yang energy.

We are always on the go. Always doing things. Never stopping.

And when we don't allow our systems a counterbalance to this, the system breaks.

We develop digestion issues. Or headaches. Or insomnia. Stress.

From the Taoist perspective, much of the infinite list of modern ailments that plague us come from an excess of Yang.

When we don't allow enough balancing forces of Yin into our lives, we become unbalanced and suffer.

An Effective Dose of Yin

So what are we to make of this??

From the Taoist perspective, we can see the importance of making time in our lives for more Yin-dominant practices.

As a reader of my blog, you can imagine an obvious choice for this: Yin Yoga.

In fact, Yin Yoga gets its name from the Yin-dominant nature of the practice.

Yin Yoga is a perfect complement to balance our otherwise Yang-dominated lives.

But Yin Yoga is certainly not the only option here.

Anything that allows you a chance to unplug is a good candidate for these sorts of practices.

We could take up a meditation practice. 

Or allow ourselves time to sit in the park. 

We can go for a slow, quiet walk at the end of the day.

Reducing Yang Influences

In addition to making time for focused Yin practices, it can be equally valuable to remove Yang excess from your life intentionally.

Notice how much time you spend on screens.

Notice what time you go to bed.

See how you respond to these stimuli and how they affect your mood and energy level.

How many of these are necessary and could be easily eliminated?

Of course, getting rid of all of the Yang excesses in your schedule will never be possible. Still, every bit you can eliminate will make a difference.

With time and practice, you will tune into your natural balance of Yin and Yang and adapt accordingly around it.

Learning to Practice This For Yourself

The hardest part of these things is starting in the first place, so here's a list of ideas to help you find more Yin within your life.

If you follow these suggestions consistently for a week or more, I guarantee you will start to feel more balance in your life!

• ● Notice when you feel the pull to stimulate yourself with social media or mindless browsing. Can you put the breaks on that and take a few deep breaths instead?

• ● Schedule at least 1 longer Yin-dominant practice (Yin Yoga, A more extended Meditation, etc.) each week, and be sure not to miss it!

• ● Each week, take at least one long walk outside without your phone. Bringing a friend or partner is okay, but try to avoid unnatural stimulation.

• ● Take at least 5 minutes daily to just sit, ideally in some form of meditation. I have plenty of guided meditations on my YouTube that can help you get started... ;-)

• ● Set a lights-out time for your electronic devices (except perhaps a Kindle/reader) so your mind can unwind before bed.

Conclusion

While the concepts of Yin and Yang are relatively easy to understand, it can take a lifetime of practice to really hone in on balancing them for yourself.

For me, shifting out of balance is a regular challenge that I face.

However, when I take the time to implement the steps I listed above, I feel better in my daily life, and I'm refreshed and ready to take on new challenges!

Give it a shot, and let me know how it goes. I promise you will appreciate the results!

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From Frustration to Equanimity: Finding Inner Peace Amidst Life's Traffic Jams

A Familiar Occurence. 

The light has cycled twice, yet you're only a few car lengths further forward.

Each time the cycle changes in the other direction, a never-ending flood of cars crams into the road. You see there will be no space for you when the light turns green again.

Even though you left the house plenty early, you are still stewing. As you grip the wheel tighter, you start tapping your fingers and fidgeting in your seat. Your mind starts spinning with restlessness. 

"Ugh. Why am I stuck here?!"

As your heartbeat speeds up, you begin calculating how late you will be. You curse the drivers filling the road and how they are in your way.

But after a few more cycles, you get to go, and the traffic starts moving past the problematic light. It was a relatively minor delay on your overall trip, but still, the damage has been done.

You are worked up and spend the next several hours irritated and short-tempered.

But what if there was a different option in situations like this? What if you could have gone through that situation, not denying your frustration but not getting stuck in it either?

Equanimity - The Practice of Momentary Liberation.

In Buddhism, this concept is called Equanimity, and it is the essence of the entire path in many ways. It is a critical practice that leads to less suffering while allowing us to feel more connected with our lives.

As such, this is one of the most valuable skills for any Yogi to cultivate. It will pay huge dividends on the mat/cushion and daily life.

Equanimity is a lifelong practice to perfect, and this relatively short post will give you a taste of its meaning. I hope it will plant a seed that you will carry with you so that you can keep developing this skill.

Vedena: The Key to Understanding Equanimity.

To fully understand Equanimity, we must understand another Buddhist concept: Vedana.

Vedena is a fancy name for how something - anything - we come into contact with feels subjectively in our experience. It is often called Feeling Tone for this reason.

Vedana comes in three primary flavors: Pleasant, Unpleasant, and Neutral. And we have three typical conditioned responses to each of these when they arise.

• We are drawn to and get attached to things that are pleasant.

• We get irritated by and try to avoid things that are unpleasant.

• And we tend to ignore or miss things that are neutral.

Obviously, there are many levels and intensities to these sorts of reactions. Still, these are three primary ways in which vedena will show up.

Equanimity is the practice of mastering our relationship with these flavors of experience. It is about learning the skill of releasing our conditioned reactions to them.

Back to the car.

To illustrate how this can work in action, let's go back to the traffic scenario at the start of this post.

If we were to approach this situation with the intention of Equanimity, the actual events would be much the same.

You would still be stuck at the light. The cars would still be pouring in. And importantly, you would still feel the initial anxiety at the situation.

But the difference would happen in how you respond to that initial anxiety.

Rather than feeding into it, amplifying the emotion, and getting more stressed, you would instead feel the emotion in your body. You would catch it, notice it as it starts, and see how it develops over time.

You would become even more aware of the reactivity and tension beginning to arise. But rather than adding to the reactivity and getting more stressed, you could invite the body to relax instead.

You would likely have to do this some number of times as the feeling kept coming up. But each time, the reaction would get less and less.

The unpleasantness would remain, but it would no longer be a problem.

When the light finally turned, rather than having the episode ruin your day, you would be able to let it go rather than have gotten stuck in it.

Putting It Into Practice

While learning Equanimity in daily life is possible, yoga and meditation can help us to practice it more directly.

Yin Yoga, in particular, can provide a mini-laboratory to watch feeling tone evolve in real-time. 

Consider a challenging Yin Yoga pose such as dragon. For most practitioners, this will stir up intense sensations in the body and require a noticeable level of focus and effort to maintain. 

A non-equanimous mind might get stirred up by these sensations and spin into a similar reaction to the traffic scenario. They might tighten the body even more, making the unpleasant feelings worse. They would start counting the seconds until the pose was over, and each one would feel like an eternity. 

But by cultivating a sense of Equanimity, we can instead see these sensations for what they really are - just sensations. And we can learn to relax into the experience rather than fighting against them. 

And to be clear, we would still feel the challenge of the pose. It is not as if it suddenly becomes easy or an enjoyable experience. But like the traffic scenario above, we could work within the experience rather than trying to escape it.

(A key point here is to always be safe. We should never try to relax through pain or ignore it - so be careful when working with this in your physical practice.)

But what about things that we like?

This is a more subtle reaction because there is nothing wrong with enjoying things on some level. We are not trying to numb ourselves, but it can become problematic when we attach too much to things.

An example might be leaving a savasana at the end of class. After several minutes of calm bliss, the teacher calls the class out of the pose. You grumble internally at the thought of having to leave your little cocoon. 

Much of the calm quality you had just gained will have been lost.

But had you approached this situation with greater Equanimity, the shift would not have been so much of a problem. You might have felt the initial sting, but it would have disappeared from your having worked with it.

Neutral sensations present a more subtle challenge still. They call on us to look deeper. 

Consider all the things you tune out of your awareness at any moment.

Can you notice to contact with your seat? How about the weight of the clothing on your body?

These aspects of our experience are always there, but we rarely notice them. Because they could be more interesting, we tune them out.

The equanimous mind chooses to tune into all these things and see them as equals.

How mastering vedena naturally leads to Equanimity.

The first step toward greater Equanimity is learning to see our feeling tones in real time.

At first, it makes the most sense to explore these ideas in a controlled setting - like meditation or yoga. 

For a specific practice that I recommend, consider trying noting meditation. This method allows us to depersonalize our experience and see sense objects just as they are. Here is an instructional video from my YouTube:

I also have a guided meditation that focuses explicitly on working with Vedena:

Over time, as our skills sharpen, you can start to work with the practice more and more in your daily life.

The shadow Side - Indifference and Bypassing.

Like many practices, there is a possible shadow side to this work.

Equanimity can quickly morph into indifference, and paying attention to this is vital.

Equanimity is NOT dispassion.

An equanimous mind is even more connected with all the things that arise. In fact, Equanimity allows us to see our experience even more clearly than in our usual reactive way.

So if you find yourself trying to block out some aspect of your experience, understand that this is not the intention. Spiritual bypassing can be a real challenge, so try to be open to everything without getting stuck.

As I said earlier, be sure to recognize problematic sensations in your physical practice.

While there can be value in opening up to challenging sensations, we should never ignore pain in the body. Repeated pain can indicate damage, so tread carefully here - especially if you are new to this way of practicing.

The Joy of an Equanimous Mind.

As we near the end of this post, I want to emphasize again that this is a lifetime practice - not something learned from a single blog post.

I also make no claims to have perfected my sense of Equanimity. It is something that I work with every day, and I am still very much subject to my conditioned patterns and reactions.

But still, having taken on Equanimity as a core practice has been a significant key to living a more balanced and present life. It is a keystone practice for me. One that holds all of the others together

And like all practices, Equanimity is something that you can start right now.

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Never Stop Starting: Embrace Consistency for Lasting Growth in Your Practice

If you've struggled with consistency in your practice, you're not alone.

It's relatively easy to start something new, but keeping up with things is what makes the difference.

So let me back up for a moment.

Back in 2007, when I took my first yoga class, I didn't realize what I was getting into...

At that time my body was so tight that I couldn't even straighten my legs. Touching my toes seemed like a pipe dream.

And it wasn't because I was super muscular either. Sure, I had dabbled in fitness - mostly running and lifting weights - but I never stuck with any of it consistently.

Looking back on it, I was comically tight, and in average shape at best.

And so it was that I signed up for a class with the deceptively innocent name: "Beginner's Ashtanga"

In retrospect, calling this class "Beginner's" was an almost cruel misnomer. Actually this class was a 1/2 version of the Ashtanga Primary Series.

For those who don't know, this is a non-stop power vinyasa flow with dozens of planks, chaturangas, and downward dogs. Easier than the full Primary Series for sure, but still laughably hard for a brand new student.

See below:

I did half of this - with vinayasa between almost every pose!

Some 90 minutes later I laid on my mat in savasana, my body exhausted and drowning in sweat. (I didn't even realize I would need to bring a towel.)

And yet, as I lay there my mind was blissfully calm. The weight of the world seemed to lift, and I felt alive in a way I hadn't in years.

Even though I struggled through the whole class and couldn't even do half of the poses, a categoric shift had just happened.

Something deep released in my mind...

...and I knew I wanted more.

And so began my yoga journey.

I'm not sure what it was about yoga that was different, but I found something that kept me coming back.

I would soon discover Yin Yoga and Meditation, adding a calmer and more introspective form of practice. I met my teacher Josh Summers, who I still study and practice with.

While I stuck with Ashtanga for some years, like many things my practice evolved. I learned about alignment and other practical details of yoga.

In 2010 I took my 200 hour teacher training, and started down the path of being a teacher myself.

Fits and starts

To be clear, it was not always a smooth and easy process. I wasn't always consistent and dedicated.

There were many mornings when I talked myself out of practice and skipped it altogether.

Other times I went through waves where I would just do the least amount of practice I could to get by. Sometimes I would get frustrated and even want to quit.

But eventually, I would always come back.

And that's what has made the difference.

Mountains from Dust

Which brings me to one of my all-time favorite Japanese proverbs:

Even dust when piled high, can become a mountain.

Or, in the original Japanese:

塵も積もれば山となる (chiri mo tsumoreba yama to naru)

Wherever you are, yes YOU - you can begin on this path. And even if you've already started your journey, I want to remind you of the importance of continuing to return back to your practice.

Every day, every moment, is an opportunity. You can either take these opportunities, or you can let them slip away.

As you might imagine, I would urge you to definitively take them - again and again.

Even the smallest bit counts

While my first yoga class was a whopping 90 minutes (I don't even think many studios offer those anymore), you don't need to commit to anything nearly so long.

Every unit of practice matters, and nothing is too small. In fact, if you can do small practices consistently, you will get far better results than doing larger practices only occasionally.

Whether it's a stepping on your yoga mat every day, or coming back to the present moment again and again throughout your day, every little bit counts.

While they might not seem like much, each speck of dust will build over time to create the mountain of your practice.

Go forth and make it happen

Yoga and meditation have helped me with so much over the years.

I've gotten more flexible and strong. I learned to calm my mind and my anxieties. I learned about the importance of discipline and consistency.

Years of practice can lead to this sort of transformative shift, and you can always start the process just as I did.

But the most important thing is though, through all the permutations, is not to stop. Keep going and notice what happens over time.

You might be shocked by how all the results compound over the years.

And, so I share this with you to offer some inspiration. Start right now. Notice this breath. This moment.

If you have enough time, roll out your cushion or mat and do a longer practice. You can even pencil one in for later if right now doesn't work.

Take pride in each moment of practice. They are the backbone of something much larger. And never be afraid to start right now.

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Yin Is In - What Yin Yoga Is & Why You Should Practice It

Let’s get right down to brass tacks here - Yin Yoga is probably my favorite asana practice. Something about truly relaxing deeply into long-held poses and just slowing down is like crack to me. 

And yet, I’m often surprised at how little-known this practice tends to be. It’s relegated to a few weekly classes at some (but not all) studios. And I often have to give a detailed explanation of just what it is. That is just a damn shame as far as I’m concerned! This post will serve to demystify the practice, clarify any questions, and hopefully by the end you’ll be ready to sign up for your first Yin class yourself.

The Basics

If I had to give a basic summary of Yin Yoga, it would be something like this: 

In Yin Yoga we use passive holds of 3-5 minutes to access the deepest tissues of the body. There is no rushing physically or mentally, and the body is completely relaxed. You’re encouraged to pay attention to each moment, listen to the sensations in the body, and work gradually through each pose. Since the technical practice is quite simple, this also opens up an opportunity to learn the principles of mindfulness.

But really, that is just a basic synopsis that barely scratches the surface of what this practice can accomplish. There is much more to it than that.

There Is No ‘Perfect’ Pose

Yin Yoga is all about listening to your body and working with it rather than against it. Often our yoga practice becomes a battle against our own bodies in order to reach our deepest edge or do the strongest variation of the pose we have been offered. We see pictures on Instagram or Yoga Journal of super-yogis doing super-poses and we strive to recreate these results ourselves. 

But the reality is that one’s ability to do many of the most challenging Asanas may have more to do with their individual anatomy than simply with their amount of practice or dedication. The harsh truth is that for many of us, certain poses may never happen with any amount of practice - and that’s okay! This is also not meant to downplay stronger asanas nor the people who practices them. There is definitely a time and place for physically demanding asana, but it’s important to be realistic about one’s true limits. 

In Yin Yoga we embrace our own physical limitations rather than simply try to fight against them. We work with the body just as it is, and that in and of itself is an amazing thing. Each person will look quite different in each posture. There is no ‘perfect’ pose nor perfect alignment. In fact, even the same practitioner may approach each posture differently depending on how their body is feeling during any given practice.

I even imagine that some alignment-minded teachers might look at some of the shapes that I allow in my classes with a look of fear or disgust. I welcome their criticism, because I know that bodies are not meant to be forced into perfect geometric shapes! There are infinite variations to each person and each pose. And what’s far more important than how we look is how we feel within each pose.

As long as we are in a safe level of sensation, and we work cautiously and gradually, there is no ideal way to do any yoga asana. My pigeon will look completely different from yours, and that’s the way it should be.

Time Is Your Best Friend

By working carefully with the body and relaxing our muscles, we are able to hold poses for far far longer than we can in a more active yoga class. Whereas five minute in downward dog is a testament of strength that would almost never be taught to a regular class, a five minute butterfly pose is an everyday occurrence in Yin practice.

The difference is in the approach. Just like braces slowly work with teeth, Yin Yoga works slowly and passively with the denser layers of the body. The order of magnitude is different - braces may take months or years, whereas Yin postures typically last a few minutes, but the principle is the same. By working slowly and gently we can have a powerful effect on even the most sensitive tissues in the body.

By relaxing the muscles, we go deeper. A vitally important, yet often-ignored part of our muscular-skeletal system is the network of connective tissue that holds it all together. This includes all of the fascia, tendons, ligaments, collagen, and other dense tissues that make a literal web throughout our bodies. Yin is one of the few practices that can safely focus on thesetissues with little risk of injury. Yes, other styles of practice can have this affect too, but Yin allows a far deeper level of attention to the connective web. 

I like to think of it as a completing our method of exercise. We use dynamic movements to build muscle mass, strength, and burn calories. We use slow, gentle holds to lengthen and strengthen the connective tissues of the body. Even experienced Yogis might be surprised at how much more complete one’s practice feels once they add in a regular Yin component. 

Meditate In Your Postures

But for me, the real power of a Yin practice comes from how it helps to train the mind. Since we hold each pose for 3-5 minutes, each pose essentially becomes a very short meditation. For these few minutes we become still and we pay attention. The entire body becomes the meditation object. 

As we pay attention, we realize that there is a whole other level of experience that we are normally disconnected from. We may notice tiny sensations in the body. We feel pleasant aspects, unpleasant aspects. We notice the larger patterns of both the body and the mind. 

Sooner or later, (more often sooner) we will come up against a mental edge. We will feel challenged by the sensations of a posture, or maybe we’ll just get restless and want to fidget. It is in these moments where we can powerfully train ourselves to react differently. In daily life we usually avoid the unpleasant - we try to tailor our experience to be exactly as we would like it. In Yin, we confront what already is. The irony of course is that as we let go of our reactions, even otherwise challenging postures can take on a pleasant quality all their own. 

Yin Yoga can also supercharge the body to be prepared for traditional seated meditation. When the muscles and connective tissues are deeply relaxed it becomes much much easier to sit still for long periods of time. I notice that when I am neglecting my Yin practice I become very uncomfortable when I try to do seated meditation for any real length of time. When I am being consistent with my Yin practice, even long sits up to and hour or more become accessible. It all comes down to the lengthening of the deeper tissues of the body. This will have a noticeable effect when it comes time to sit still.

Putting It All Together

Even this longer exploration of Yin Yoga is really just the proverbial Finger Pointing at the Moon,  only offering you a glimpse of what the practice is really about. Of course the best way to see for yourself would be to take a Yin Yoga class with me or another experienced instructor. I’d also suggest these resources if you’d like to learn more:

YinYoga.com
Paul Grilley

So are you ready to give Yin Yoga a shot?? Let me know what you think in the comments below.